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If a pupil's misconduct is sufficiently serious to warrant a caning - or a formal spanking with a wooden clothes brush - she is expected to show true contrition when the punishment is administered.
Saying "sorry" is all very well, but an action speaks louder than words.
When the moment comes for her to bend over, she should strain to bend down very low so that her bottom is stretched as tightly-bent as possible. This will maximise the sting from each stroke she receives. It will also ensure that her bottom is thrust up in a prominent and convenient position for her tutor to aim and deliver the strokes.
The pupil is thereby recognising the authority of her tutor and submitting to his discipline, but she is doing more than this. She is also acknowledging that the punishment is being given to her for her own good and she is givng her tutor her full co-operation in carrying it out.
In effect, the pupil is signifying: "I have misbehaved and I deserve and need to be punished. Here is my bottom comveniently presented for you to place cane strokes across it, and tighly-rounded so that each stroke will sting to maximum effect."
The pupil is also tacitly acknowledging that she has no say as to precisely where on her bottom each stroke will land. That depends on her tutor.
I believe that a pupil can bend over in a truly contrite manner while retaining her clothing for modesty.
Obviously, however, any clothing needs to be stretched tautly across her bottom so as not to impede the force of impact.
The cane is normally applied best across a tight trouser seat.
Ladies vary, but it should generally be possible to administer an effective spanking (with a flat instrument) without causing anything except temporary redness that should disappear overnight.
Sometimes, the overlap of verious strokes may create a small patch of light bruising that lingers a little longer, but the mark will be faint and not distinctive. It can be passed off as the result of a collision with the corner of a table etc.
For some ladies, it is vital not to be left with distinctive marks. In such cases, the Senior Tutor takes great care to comply with the requirement.
(This can even be done without undressing - with the pupil merely reporting the physical effects of a spanking.)
It may also be possible to administer an effective caning withour leaving lasting marks. This will depend, in part, on the pupil's constitution; but the main thing is to use a light cane, with only moderate force and not much follow-through, through a layer of clothing. (The clothing protects against superficial skin damage). Again, the Senior Tutor will take great care in this matter, according to the circumstances.
After a pupil has been dismissed (and said "thank you") she goes straight to the bathroom to compose herself. While she is there, of course, she can inspect her marks in a mirror. (If she feels the need, she can also douse a towel in cold water and press it against her bottom to ease the hot stinging.)
Sometimes, a pupil expects to be left with cane marks that take a couple of days or so to fade. She can view them when she goes to bed at night, and when she gets up in the morning, and remind herself that she has been soundly punished for having been a naughty girl.
Where the authorised and agreed punishments for a pupil include both caning and bare-bottom punishment, the caning may sometimes be given first. The cane is normally given through clothing.
Sometimes a lady may deliberately wear a tight skirt on the next day after she has been caned, and get a frisson from people looking at the seat and not knowing about the cane stripes across her bottom.
To some pupils, modesty is very important - either initially or in principle. The Senior Tutor, and the ABC System, caters for this.
A pupil may elect to receive corporal punishment (on her bottom) through clothing. No undressing is required.
Provided that suitably thin and reasonably tight clothing (trousers, leggings or skirt) is worn over the bottom, a spanking (or caning) can be administered thoroughly and effectively. The strokes will be made a little harder to compensate for the protection.
A pupil who keeps all her clothes on will still feel very chastened after she has been made to bend over to have her bottom soundly smacked.
A lady may enrol as a pupil of the Senior Tutor under the ABC system on the basis that either initially, or permanently, she will NOT be required to bare her bottom, or otherwise remove appropriate clothing, in order to receive corporal punishment.
Similarly, a new pupil is normally excused from receiving the cane unless and until it has been agreed that she now needs it and is ready for it.
Conversely, of course, the Senior Tutor accepts that some pupils require an otk bare-bottom spanking as a re-assuring and affectionate form of punishment, especially if they are feeling wretched about something.
Yet other pupils, may need to be caned, then sent to stand in the corner displaying the cane marks across their bottom, to help correct especially wilful and stubborn misbehaviour which has become persistent.
The Senior Tutor tailors a disciplinary regime which best meets the requirements of each individual pupil.
How hard should a spanking be?
An OTK hand-spanking may not consist of particularly hard smacks, but there could be quite a lot of them. The repetition of smacks on the same area builds up heat and stinging. This could be a "loving" spanking - given to a pupil who feels especially wretched and foolish about her misconduct.
A prolonged spanking given with a solid object, and where the strokes are applied hard and with "follow through", should generally be avoided as there is a serious risk of bruising.
In my view, an especially punitive spanking should be given with a wooden clothes brush (or miniature cricket bat used for autographs), and the number of strokes should be determined in advance. This permits for a controlled punishment where the strokes can be aimed at specific areas to spread them evenly across the pupil's bottom.
Only the fleshy parts of the bottom should be struck. Keep well below the level of the top of the crack. How low to go is a matter of judgement; low strokes are not dangerous but can be very painful.
Twelve strokes is a good number.
The strokes should certainly not be applied ferociously - but they should be given quite a lot harder than the pupil would wish upon herself (at that moment). They are punitive and should feel punitive.
A clothes brush spanking should make the pupil feel that her bottom is ablaze and it will be hot and stinging until bed-time. In time, however, the raging heat will subside into a rather pleasant warmth.
Pupils vary enormously. Some will jump up and clutch their bottom. Some will remain bending over, in position, until the punishment has been carried out. The punishment may be equally effective on both types of pupil.
THE GOLDEN RULE is that the punishment has been imposed, and is being carried out, FOR THE PUPIL'S OWN GOOD. It should be made duly punitive and effective; but it should never be more severe than the pupil (1) deserves; and (2) needs.
Sometimes a pupil will take 12 strokes of the clothes brush very stoically without a murmur and without moving. On being told to stand up, and then being told she is dismissed, she politely thanks the Senior Tutor and then walks slowly to the door, in a dignified manner, and leaves the room.
She goes straight to the ladies'.
She puts a flannel in the wash basin and soaks it in cold water. It will be a cold compress to cool the hot stinging in her bottom
While she waits for it to soak, she pulls her trousers down ... and she rubs ...
She was very brave and determined not to let the Senior Tutor see her making a fuss. But goodness, how that clothes brush stings!
Standing in the corner is an often-neglected part of discipline, but it plays a very important role.
The pupil should be required to keep her forehead against the wall, under pain of severe punishment if she disobeys.
The point is that she must feel trapped and powerless. If she feels wilful or rebellious the experience will be horrible for her. However, if she surrenders and submits to standing in the corner, the experience is not too bad. Tedious, but also calming and a good opportunity for reflection.
The corner forces her to confront the fact that she has been punished for her bad behaviour.
The experience is particularly punitive if she has been caned or spanked and she is required to display the marks on her bottom while standing in the corner. She can't shrug off that and pretend it never happened.
Keeping the forehead against the wall also keeps her head bowed - in shame that she has misbehaved and had to be punished.
Sometimes, a pupil may try to influence what happens at a Review Meeting.
If she is cunning enough, she might get away with it.
However, in this case, the Senior Tutor will quickly see that the jeans offer little protection.
The minx will be allowed to keep her jeans on; but the Senior Tutor will make sure that all the strokes are hard enough to give her a very sound punishment.
With her elbows and hands firmly on the seat of the chair, and her forehead rested on them, the pupil has her bottom thrust up and ideally presented to receive her 12 strokes of the clothes brush.
One can see how soft her bottom looks, and sense how much a good, hard smack of a wooden clothes brush is going to sting.
How is the spanking administered?
Well, the striking area of the Senior Tutor's clothes brush is about 7 inches long and 2.1/3 inches wide. Imagine a good smack planted on the upper right; another planted immediately below it in the middle; and another in the ultra-soft area immediately below that. Those three smacks would cover most of the right side of the pupil's bottom - an area of about 49 square inches.
Three good strokes would similarly cover an area of about 49 square inches on the left side.
So that gives us a strategy.
Aim the first stroke upper right. "One, Sir."
The next, upper left. "Two, Sir."
The next, middle right. "Three,Sir."
The next, middle left. "Four, Sir."
The next, lower right. "Five, Sir."
The next, lower left. "Six, Sir."
The pupil now feels that her whole bottom is ablaze with the stinging pain. More precisely, the intense smarting covers 49 square inches on each side.
However, it is not over yet. Oh no.
The Senior Tutor now repeats the strokes, in the same order, to land on exactly the same places.
This time the hard, smooth, wooden clothes brush lands on soft, reddened flesh that is already tender, hot and stinging from the first round of 6 strokes. So numbers seven to twelve, which have to be counted, hurt a lot more than the first six did.
When the pupil counts "Twelve, Sir" there is relief in her voice; but also some grim pride that she has survived her ordeal and coped.
She would love to now rush to the bathroom and press a cold, wet towel against her crimson bottom to help relieve the hot stinging. But this is not allowed yet.
"STAND UP. GO AND STAND IN THE CORNER. YOU WILL STAY THERE FOR 10 MINUTES."
The corner gives her time to think.
"Ooh, that really hurt quite a lot. My bottom's seriously hot and stinging. Still, I've survived it - as always - and I've got to admit I deserved it. I wouldn't change my Senior Tutor for anything; he's very good for me."
As she re-entered the study where the Senior Tutor had just punished her, he gave her a big hug of forgiveness and reconciliation. She was consumed by a huge sense of relief that her punishment was over and she had atoned. And she felt fiercely proud that she had shown the Senior Tutor she could take a caning with good grace.
Her bottom was still smarting - quite a lot, actually - but that did not stop her from feeling immensely grateful to him for taking her in hand and making her feel incredibly secure and cherished. Indeed, the hot stinging was a good reminder that she had someone watching over her, and a sure sign that she would have some stripes across her bottom to admire in the mirror before bedtime.
As he hugged her - chastely but fondly - she recalled how events had unfolded.
After her various delays and excuses, he had ordered her, expressly, to return the library book, and pay the fine, by 5 pm. And she hadn't. She had forgotten. Or had she subconsciously disobeyed him to see what would happen to her if she did? She wasn't quite sure herself.
She was quite sure what had happened next, however. When she reported the matter, she was immediately summoned to a special review meeting; and told to report wearing a thin pair of trousers.
By the time she reported, and knocked on the Senior Tutor's door, she felt very nervous and not a little bit scared.
As the Senior Tutor began to reprimand her, she also started to feel very small. He was calm, polite and formal; and he made it crystal clear to her that she had been blatantly disobedient and that she both deserved and needed to be severely punished. With mounting dread, she suffered her reprimand meekly and waited to hear what her punishment would be. Whatever it was, there would be no question of arguing; she would simply have to accept it.
Eventually - in a quiet, still voice - he told her. She would get the cane: she would
bend over to receive 12 strokes across the seat of her trousers.
She was then told to go to the loo and remove her panties - so she had no protection under her thin trousers - and then to stand in the hall outside the study and wait to be called in.
The waiting made her more and more nervous and scared. There was no question of getting out of the punishment, it was inevitable; but would she be able to take it with good grace, or even at all? Or would it hurt so much - her thin trousres would give her very little protection - that she jumped up and wailed and generally made an exhibition of herself? She was desperate to avoid making the Senior Tutor think she was a coward and a wimp.
The waiting was so horrible that the sudden panic - and sinking feeling in her stomach - as she was suddenly called in, seemed almost preferable.
She saw the cane he was about to use on her lying on a table, but she had no time to linger on it. The Senior Tutor pointed to a chair placed against the wall, with its seat facing outwards.
"Go and face the chair. When I tell you to bend over, grip the low struts and rest your forehead on the seat. Keep your legs together and straight."
She went to the chair, the order came, and she did as directed.
Bending down so far thrust her bottom up and made it tightly rounded. She could feel the thin, smooth material of her trouser seat stretching and clinging like a second skin to her soft buttocks. The position was so humbling and submissive that it would have been a punishment in itself. But of course the punishment was far more than that. She had to receive 12 strokes of the cane, and, after each stroke, to count it out loud and say "for being disobedient".
The sudden, explosive violence of a stroke of the cane landing was the more shocking because of the ritual civility and politeness that had preceded it. The whippy cane, its last 9 inches travelling at enormous speed, landed with a loud thwack and had the rest of its energy absorbed by her fleshy bottom.
She found the pain was more intense than she had been able to imagine; and made worse because she knew the Senior Tutor was making every stroke hurt a lot to signify his disapproval of her disobedience. After 3 punitive strokes, she feared she would not be able to cope.
However, she persevered and, after 6 strokes he gave her a half-time pause to help recover herself a bit.
Eventually, she counted out "12". Her bottom was ablaze but she had made it. She had jumped up twice - when she just couldn't help it - but on each occasion she had very quickly got back into position again. She felt very proud that she had taken her caning bravely and co-operated fully.
The Senior Tutor then directed her to go and stand in the corner, with her forehead against the wall, and pull down her trousers to display her cane marks. She already felt so chastened and submissive that the order seemed perfectly natural. And the humbling effect of having to show cane stripes across her bottom was somewhat balanced by her pride in showing the Senior Tutor how brave she had been to accept what he had done to her.
After what seemed an age, but was probably no more than 5 minutes, she was told to pull her trousers up but remain in the corner for what seemed another age (perhaps 10 minutes).
Then she was dismissed. She said "thank you" and meekly left the room.
Now she was back and getting her hug of forgiveness. This was followed by a glass of wine.
"I'm sorry I jumped up a couple times, but I just couldn't help it. I got back as quickly as a could. Were you happy with the way I took it?"
"Yes, you were very brave - and very co-operative and polite, as I expect you to be."
"Thank you. I feel quite proud of that." She paused. "Next time you cane me, it'll be better because now I know I can survive it; but also worse because I'll know what's coming next and how just much it hurts.'
"You expect to get the cane again, do you?"
"It's a jolly good punishment. You'll cane me if I deserve it, won't you?"
"Yes, I will,"
"Well then, I certainly expect I'll get it again. Quite a few times, probably."
She returned to the advert again. It was silly to expect to find what she wanted in an internet advert, but she was aching with guilt about the way she had treated her assistant. Okay, she had been in a bad mood about several other things but that was no excuse for bullying a young woman who had been doing her best. It was no excuse at all. And the remedy was plain. She should have to report to some-one who would give her a severe telling-off, and then order her to bend over for a sound spanking. For her nasty bullying, she should be made to traipse off, in disgrace, to get the clothes brush, pretty hard, across her bottom.
She might even deserve to get the cane, but that frightened her a bit and she would very much like to avoid a caning, at least for the time being. The advert said that she COULD avoid the cane. It also said she could keep her bottom clothed (although she felt that, at some stage, it would probably do her good to be sent to stand in the corner with her knickers down to display her smacked bottom).
She read the advert yet again, and then answered it by email.
She got on well with the Senior Tutor as they assessed one another. It was easy to find his address, although she felt increasingly nervous as she approached it. When she rang the doorbell, she was politely ushered in and the ST seemed the authoritive sort of gentleman who would be friendly and amusing when he did not have to be stern. But, of course, he had to be stern with her because she had been a bully. And he was stern. In a quiet but firm voice he made her go through what had happened and admit how shameful her behaviour had been. Then he made her sit down and write 20 lines: "I'm going to be spanked with the clothes brush for bullying."
When she had finished writing, she had to stand on a little plinth, about six inches high, and recite the lines. The ST then showed her the chair she would have to bend over. Its seat was facing her. She would have to rest her forehead on the seat and grip the low struts on the sides. She would have to keep her legs together and straighten them to thrust up her bottom. It was obvious that her bottom was going to be completely vulnerable and on display, and that she would feel totally chastened and submissive. Not to mention being worried about how much the strokes would hurt. She was glad she had worn her well-fitting, smooth black trousers. ST wanted to see the outline of her bottom in order to smack it; but at least it would look nice.
She was then sent to wait in the hallway, where she could see the chair, and the clothes brush resting on the table, through a glass window. While she was waiting, ST came out to ask her what she was doing there; to which she had to reply that she was waiting to get the clothes brush for bullying.
Eventually, she was called in and told to bend over. Each stroke seemed to explode with stinging and heat. The strokes were given on alternate sides, starting at the top right, with a short pause between them. The first six strokes covered her bottom. There was then a slightly longer pause before the second six strokes were exact repeats of the first six. They thus hurt even more. Wow; but she coped. It served her right.
She was then sent to stand in the corner, with her head bowed and kept against the wall, for 20 minutes; which seemed a very long time indeed. She was allowed to rub the seat of her trousers and, initially, wondered whether she should because it would be an admission that the spanking had hurt her. Then she realised it was ridiculous to try to pretend her punishment had not been effective when they both knew it had. Her bottom was hot and stinging and she felt thoroughly chastened and subdued.
And also absolved and relieved.
As she stood in the corner, she decided that, if she had to be punished again for bullying, ST would be authorised to use the cane on her; and he could tell her to stand in the corner with her knickers down to display her stripes. She didn't want the cane; but she had to admit that she was intrigued by what it would feel like and, also, how ST could do it to really hurt but to make the marks disappear within a day or so (if that was required).
After 20 minutes, she was called out of the corner and dismissed. She said "thank you" and went to the bathroom to recover. After a few minutes, she returned for a chaste hug and a glass of wine with ST; who was very supportive and friendly.
A week after her punishment, she was about to shout at her assistant when, just in time, she remembered that she mustn't. About five weeks later, however, she did lose her temper with the young woman.
She has reported the matter to the ST by email; and she has just noticed that she has received a reply. She has poured herself a glass of wine before opening it because she expects it will tell her when to report to ST to be disciplined.
On reading "Waiting To Get The Cane", a reader has responded that it would be bad enough having to wait outside for a lecture on her misbehaviour, to be followed by having to pull her knickers down and bend over to get the slipper on her bare bottom.
Well, I don't disagree, of course, but in "Waiting To Get The Cane" I was focussing on a very specific part of a severe punishment, namely the few minutes between the pupil being told she is about to be caned and the moment when she is called into the punishment room for the punishment to be carried out.
As regards the more general situation of waiting to be told off and then punished, my first comment is that I have not used a slipper for over 20 years. I find them too unwieldly and imprecise. I much prefer a wooden clothes brush for giving a spanking. However, more recently, I have also come to favour a home-made belt-strap - as pictured below.
This can be made by cutting a leather belt at about 15 inches from the tip of the buckle, and then cutting off a further foot, or so, of leather and sticking it to the back. Use glue, tape and/or string binding. This produces an implement that is reasonably solid but very easy to administer and control. It is very effective through clothing and, even more so, on a bare bottom.
There is no doubt that, sometimes, the pupil gets a beneficial shock effect if her telling-off ends with a curt instruction to, forthwith, bare her bottom and bend over a chair to be spanked. However, in general, it is normally best to give the pupil some time to reflect on what is going to happen to her.
One tactic is to end her reprimand with an order to go and fetch the strap (which will have been left in some suitable place outside the punishment room). That will not be a pleasant journey for her. As a variation, one can give the pupil a two-part order: (1) to fetch the strap; (2) on handing it over, to promptly bare her bottom and bend over to have the strap used on her, without any further instruction. Such a two-part order really brings her situation home to the pupil.
After a pupil has been caned or formally spanked there is much to be said for sending her to stand in the corner; with her head bowed and kept against the walls. She cannot help but feel submissive, and this is a good way for her to adjust to the intense smarting in her bottom. The effect is enhanced if she has to bare her bottom to display her marks.
It is salutary for a pupil to reflect that, not only is her bottom smarting and marked, but that her Tutor also knows that, and, indeed, is the cause. This goes to create a bond of respect and mutual affection between them.